As women we turn to go through so much pain and shame under the people we once loved. These people become so much of devils and out of fear we let them continue to hurt us and our children together. Why does a woman continue to be in such a relationship? Why don't they run away? These are some of the questions people often ask. And here I give my insight on why. Most women in this situations turn to look at their situation as a thing that will pass. They continue to be hopeful that it will be better sometime. They don't have means to start over. They fear for their lives and think the devils will kill them should they try anything. They fear death more than the humiliation. They lack strong support because they are not allowed to join any societies or even go to church. They are alone. They do not stay in their marriages because of love, no and if so why do they wish for these partners to die. These women are hurting, they need support. They need to know the grace of God...

Ever wondered what stood in front of you from excelling, from shining? From being that person you want to become. From achieving that goal you have set yourself to achieve. Well I think I got that figured out, not that because I am smarter than you but because I went through the same shade you are going through.   The same fear of being scared to be wrong. Yes the shade that made it impossible for me to shine, to be who I would love to become. The fearful, the judgemental and cynicism voice that says, don’t attempt it, rather leave it for the intelligent. Why do we become like this? Why do we continue to be so hard on ourselves? Let me tell you, it goes back a long way back to where we come from.   Growing up, when you were shouted at when you dared made a mistake or even got a hiding for being wrong on your maths paper. Getting older when you got to be ridiculed for broken grammar and knowing that the only way to please people is to be always perfect and make no mist...

                                I don’t know how often you get to come in contact with these kids who are mostly seen around shopping complexes and are to some degree dirty, without shoes and even unhealthy smell. They call them street kids and I call them our kids and would like to know what you call them. These kids like any kids ran into the streets to find some refuge which they couldn't find anywhere in their communities. People ask why they turn to abscond from their caring aunts and uncles. After having done a little of some research on this issue, I have come to realize the implication of this. The exercise has helped to not just look at the surface of the problem but the root or the origin of this whole issue. Some people are even offended when these kids are offered change or leftovers. They will make co...

MY SECRET I am a true believer of Jesus Christ my Lord and saver and therefore the words I have learned in life of me being able to create my own destiny could easily be integrated into the Holy Bible. So when I say I am my own creator what does it mean according to the word of God? Yes I am my own creator but where does that leave God? I suppose for a person like me who travelled such a long journey to be where I am today, I will always be grateful to the amount of faith I have in the Almighty. To some it may seem a contradiction to say God is a creator and then say I am my own creator. Well for me it’s not, I believe since I have God in me it is possible to be my own creator. The amount of faith I have in God gives me the ability to change things and by just believing in Him gives me all the power to allow him to work wonders in my life. Nothing I got was from a silver platter but my faith in the one above makes me smile of the things not yet seen in my life but...

One of the things I have turned to realise is that we cannot always get what we expect from life. Sometimes we go through difficult storms in life and the next person you turn to might be your partner, your sister, your mum or even your friend. With all that is going on, the difficulty you are experiencing, you want them to share the pain with you. You forget that they can never be you or even wear your shoe size. You want their comforting words according to how you want them to respond. When this person respond to you in the way you don't want them to or in the correct way according to you, you feel somehow betrayed, let down or even crashed at times. It so sad but the thing is you went to them already with the answer to your problem; you just wanted them to confirm how true or correct you are. And guess what they do not give you that anticipated answer or support you expecting from them. These are the people you so much expect a backup from, maybe you even look up to them ...

When you let something go it doesn't mean that it never existed or you should forget it's existence, its  about being at peace that it existed and cherish the memories with an open mind. I will always cherish those moments but I guess its time I let go. Sometimes it becomes so difficult to let go because it seems like you are defeated but I don't think its about losing or winning rather about accepting and learning from it and allowing yourself to grow from the experience. Your holding back might be, you are blocking your blessings from entering your door. So its about time to let go!

                                               It is in times like this when I just want to run away from all of this. I am so tired and my mind can't think anymore but I cannot sleep because there is this pending assignment which needs to be done before I go to sleep. And to think that I have a class at 7 a.m. really sucks. I can't take this anymore but am bound to. I am so far from my family, as a mother there is just too much expected of me and, I don't know how to proceed. Right now I envy those of you who are sleeping and deep in your dreams. I look at the time and think, when will this be over? I know this should and must be done, I need to be strong and never lose focus, I need to always have the end in mind. Now comes the moment where I...